Life is hard, and every now and then we face difficulties. And relationships are no different. There is rejection, there is cheating, and there are many (emphasis on the ‘many’) disappointments. Where do these bad relationships leave us?
After a lot of struggle and mental torture, we settle on the thought that love hurts. That, loving someone brings us no good. Love is nothing but a concept created by people. And moreover, what exactly is LOVE? I looked up for it in my dictionary. Even that can’t settle on one definition of love (It had attempted to define it in 21 ways). And no two people can agree on one meaning of love. It means different things for different people. Some say love is about caring for another. Some say its just sex. Some say it’s about respecting one another. For me, it is honesty, loyalty, respect, understandability, care and passion and the list goes on. But we all can agree to one thing that mostly, it is the feeling of affection and a deep attachment towards someone or something.
When exactly does love hurt? It hurts when we dedicate ourselves completely to someone. It hurts when that dedication goes to waste. It hurts when you give all you had to him and in return he couldn’t even be there by your side when you needed him the most. It hurts, but, if you notice closely, it’s not the love that hurts. It’s our expectations, his actions and cruel words that hurt us. It’s the moments and the situations you find yourself in, after loving someone, that hurt you the most and consequently, make you turn off your ’emotions switch’.
Because there can be nothing more pure than love. Love has immense powers. It can heal a sick person, it can put people on the right path, it can guide a lost soul and it can make a weeper smile. It can do anything that you ever wished for. And it is pure in the sense that love cannot ever hurt anyone. It will make you blush in the middle of the night, it will make the butterflies in your stomach run a marathon, it will give you all the happy memories that you will cherish throughout your life and so on.
So never blame ‘love’ because of the hard times that your crush or your lover gave you. It was them, their words and their actions that hurt you.
And never give up on love because you’ll never find a more beautiful and genuine feeling than it.
–I pray that you find your true one and that you get to be with him for the rest of your life–